I work with a lot of young men who are thinking about marriage or dating. Often times I find that what we have to work past is not a desire to serve, but a desire to be served. Because of sin men are inherently selfish (women too, but for the sake of this post I am focusing on men) and are constantly judging how things affect them. I often hear from the dudes about how they want this or that in a girl and how this supposed “wonder woman” needs to conform to their passions and hobbies. To put it bluntly they want someone like themselves only with breasts. This is not a biblical model for how men should think about women we want to date. Women were made fundamentally different from us, God had intention in this and it is more than just biology. Men we were made to be alone, but we also were not made to be with carbon copies of ourselves. Chapter 1 of “Holding Hands, Holding Hearts: Recovering a Biblical View of Christian Dating” by Richard and Sharon Phillips, gives some good wisdom pertaining to this:
“God created the woman, who was made of Adam but differently, so that Adam would know a love that was more than self-love.” (pg. 24)
“’The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved. Adam lost a rib…but in lieu thereof he had a helpmate for him, which abundantly made up his loss.” (pg. 27, quoting Matthew Henry)
What about a dog being man’s best friend?
“A dog cannot share a man’s dreams, cannot kneel beside him in prayer, cannot exhort and encourage him with God’s Word, and cannot inspire in him the self-sacrificing love that makes him godly…A woman was made to fith with a man: to match his strength with her resilience, to minister to his heart with the power given to her by God. Only a woman is a suitable helper for man.” (pg. 30)
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